Life - lets give life to our lives

1. Give meaning to your life!

Who are you? Why do you do what you do every day? Each of us lives in our own way, but we do not often ask why we do one thing over another. The purpose of your actions is to nourish your own well-being, since the meaning of your life is prodigal motivation, persistence, satisfaction and success...! If you are dissatisfied with your life, perhaps it is time to renew the meaning you give to your life by asking about your values, your goals, your activities. It will be a first step - very important - towards a sustainable well-being.

2. Enjoy the moment

It is convenient to give his life goals and to nourish the senses, but do not fall into imbalance. Sometimes we are drawn into the maelstrom of life without taking time to savor the chances we have. We all want to improve our lives, and dissatisfaction is watching us at every turn. If you have a lover, a job, good meals to eat and you do not fear for your safety, you are already a part of a very small percentage of people on earth for whom life flows in excellent conditions. This awareness will help you enjoy a bit of happiness, whose life gratifies you!

3. Become a catalyst for happiness!

Figuratively, a catalyst is a person who by his mere presence causes a reaction. Why not cause a positive reaction all around you? "There is nothing wrong in preferring happiness," said Albert Camus. By focusing on the positive aspects of your life, you will radiate to the point where others will feel right at your sole contact. An experiment to try!

4. Become your best friend(s)!

Sometimes, some stressful memories and twisted conclusions make us a good person in a bad company. We condemn, we affirm our faults, we let our fears run our lives. Instead of focusing on your weaknesses, you can better recognize your strengths and qualities. This attitude will help you make peace with yourself.

5. Stop brooding!

It is recognized that our thoughts greatly influence our mood and level of well-being. The thoughts and negative emotions attract negative emotions, thoughts and positive emotions attract positive emotions. Thus, in each situation, you can always choose the more positive dimensions. Life does not turn so bad after all!

6. Do not entertain your suffering today from yesterday!

The anxiety and negative thoughts does not relieve us of our sorrows of tomorrow: they withdraw our today’s strengths and pleasures! Living by staying focused on your past prevents you from moving forward. Because if your past is no guarantee of your present, your present, it is the guarantor of your future! You can practice to accept your grudges, your difficult experiences, your conflicts, your grief. In doing so, you turn the bitterness in satisfaction! The ability to accept relieve you from chains you attached yourself to your feet.

7. Be empathetic!

"Great opportunities to help others do occasionally occur, but small opportunities surround us every day," said author Sally Koch. Empathy is the ability to put ourselves in the shoes of others to become aware of their statements and their emotions. Empathy is the natural enemy of egocentricity, a disease that eats away at our society. Instead, therefore, defend your interests and point of view first and put yourself in the shoes of others. Understand that your friend is worried that she did not give you expression that you can possibly avoid a painful conflict. Without you deny yourself, think about what other people live. You sow the seeds that will help make our world a better place to live.

10 Golden ways to Improve our quality of Life

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10 Golden ways to Improve our quality of Life

Many of our problems come from within our own minds. They aren’t caused by events, bad luck, or other people. We cause them through our own poor mental habits.

Here are 10 habits you should set aside right away to free yourself from the many problems each one will be causing you.

1. Stop jumping to conclusions.

There are two common ways this habit increases people’s difficulties. First, they assume that they know what is going to happen, so they stop paying attention and act on their assumption instead. Human beings are lousy fortune-tellers. Most of what they assume is wrong. That makes the action wrong too. The second aspect of this habit is playing the mind-reader and assuming you know why people do what they do or what they’re thinking. Wrong again, big time. More relationships are destroyed by this particular kind of stupidity than by any other.

2. Don’t dramatize.

Lots of people inflate small setbacks into life-threatening catastrophes and react accordingly. This habit makes mountains out of molehills and gives people anxieties that either don’t exist or are so insignificant they aren’t worth worrying about anyway. Why do they do it? Who knows? Maybe to make themselves feel and seem more important. Whatever the reason, it’s silly as well as destructive.

3. Don’t invent rules.

A huge proportion of those “oughts” and “shoulds” that you carry around are most likely needless. All that they do for you is make you feel nervous or guilty. What’s the point? When you use these imaginary rules on yourself, you clog your mind with petty restrictions and childish orders. And when you try to impose them on others, you make yourself into a bully, a boring nag, or a self-righteous bigot.

4. Avoid stereotyping or labeling people or situations.

The words you use can trip you up. Negative and critical language produces the same flavor of thinking. Forcing things into pre-set categories hides their real meaning and limits your thinking to no purpose. See what’s there. Don’t label. You’ll be surprised at what you find.

5. Quit being a perfectionist.

Life isn’t all or nothing, black or white. Many times, good enough means exactly what it says. Search for the perfect job and you’ll likely never find it. Meanwhile, all the others will look worse than they are. Try for the perfect relationship and you’ll probably spend your life alone. Perfectionism is a mental sickness that will destroy all your pleasure and send you in search of what can never be attained.

6. Don’t over-generalize.

One or two setbacks are not a sign of permanent failure. The odd triumph doesn’t turn you into a genius. A single event—good or bad—or even two or three don’t always point to a lasting trend. Usually things are just what they are, nothing more.

7. Don’t take things so personally.

Most people, even your friends and colleagues, aren’t talking about you, thinking about you, or concerned with you at all for 99% of the time. The majority of folk in your organization or neighborhood have probably never heard of you and don’t especially want to. The ups and downs of life, the warmth and coldness of others, aren’t personal at all. Pretending that they are will only make you more miserable than is needed.

8. Don’t assume your emotions are trustworthy.

How you feel isn’t always a good indicator of how things are. Just because you feel it, that doesn’t make it true. Sometimes that emotion comes from nothing more profound than being tired, hungry, annoyed, or about to get a head-cold. The future won’t change because you feel bad—nor because you feel great. Feelings may be true, but they aren’t the truth.

9. Don’t let life get you down. Keep practicing being optimistic.

If you expect bad things in your life and work, you’ll always find them. A negative mind-set is like looking at the world through distorting, grimy lenses. You spot every blemish and overlook or discount everything else. It’s amazing what isn’t there until you start to look for it. Of course, if you decide to look for signs of positive things, you’ll find those too.

10. Don’t hang on to the past. This is my most important suggestion of all:

Most of the anger, frustration, misery, and despair in this world come from people clinging to past hurts and problems. The more you turn them over in your mind, the worse you’ll feel and the bigger they’ll look. Don’t try to fight misery. Let go and move on. Do that and you’ve removed just about all its power to hurt you.

let go and move.

understand yourself first

Understanding ourselves.. that's the toughest part.

If we know what we are and what we really want we will definetely get it. But then, understanding ourselves.. :) That's the first step to progress.

We all need help,We all need people

Everybody thinks very high of themselves,Ofourse that's nothing wrong.But then the truth is- Every single human being is unique and precious in their own way.And it is also true that we need eachother in someway or the other many times in life.

I read this little story Long time ago- but then i always keep remembering it to keep myself humble-

I was parked in front of the mall wiping off my car. I had just come
from the car wash and was waiting for my wife to get out of work.
Coming my way from across the parking lot was what society would
consider a bum.
From the looks of him, he had no car, no home, no clean clothes, and no
money. There are times when you feel generous but there are other times
that you just don't want to be bothered. This was one of those "don't
want to be bothered times."
"I hope he doesn't ask me for any money," I thought.
He didn't.
He came and sat on the curb in front of the bus stop but he didn't look
like he could have enough money to even ride the bus.
After a few minutes he spoke.
"That's a very pretty car," he said.
He was ragged but he had an air of dignity around him. His scraggly
blond beard keep more than his face warm.
I said, "thanks," and continued wiping off my car.


He sat there quietly as I worked. The expected plea for money never
came.
As the silence between us widened something inside said, "ask him if
he needs any help." I was sure that he would say "yes" but I held true
to the inner voice.
"Do you need any help?" I asked.
He answered in three simple but profound words that I shall never forget.
We often look for wisdom in great men and women. We expect it from
those of higher learning and accomplishments.

I expected nothing but an
outstretched grimy hand. He spoke the three words that shook me.
"Don't we all?" he said.

I was feeling high and mighty, successful and important, above a bum
in the street, until those three words hit me like a twelve gauge
shotgun.
Don't we all?
I needed help. Maybe not for bus fare or a place to sleep, but I
needed help. I reached in my wallet and gave him not only enough for bus
fare, but enough to get a warm meal and shelter for the day. Those
three little words still ring true. No matter how much you have, no matter how much you have accomplished, you need help too. No matter how little you have, no matter how loaded you are with problems, even without money or
a place to sleep, you can give help.

Even if it's just a compliment, you can give that.
You never know when you may see someone that appears to have it all.
They are waiting on you to give them what they don't have. A different perspective on life, a glimpse at something beautiful, a respite from daily chaos, that only you through a torn world can see. Maybe the man was just a homeless stranger wandering the streets. Maybe
he was more than that.

Maybe he was sent by a power that is great and
wise, to minister to a soul too comfortable in themselves.

Maybe God looked down, called an Angel, dressed him like a bum, then said, "go minister to that man cleaning the car, that man needs help."
Don't we all?

Lets love,respect and help each other through our lives.

Life is worth everything- Short poem

Small things matter a lot in life
words and smiles and thoughts we have
if it makes a gloom go bright
its worth living,everyday.

As u rush through hails and stroms
rarely pausing by to stop
yet u made a face to smile
its worth living,thats the way.

If you smell the roses still
enjoy rain and shine as well
in the crazy crowded world
its worth living,it always is.

There are times when problems soar
fix it with the strength of hope
life is precious to be lost
its worth living,to the last.

Sometimes its dirty,bad and worse
embrassed and shamed we regret
cant give up yet,theres cleaning to do
it worth living,just trust and get.

If you touched a life or soul
made them reach their distant goal
with a simple helping hand
its worth living,this is it all.

God does not desend to solve it all
but through people he does his art
Stand on ur feet and rise to help
Lets see god through ourselves.

Living life today for a regret free tomorrow

The other day i was watching the movie 17 again. It was fun but got me thinking.There are many times in life where we want to go back in time and correct our mistakes. I can say with absolute confidence everybody has this secret desire.If only we could go back and start saving early, go back and choose a different career,life partner etc.. etc..Its true everybody wishes for it.But oh no! that is impossible.Although we love this fantasy with all our hearts that magic is just not possible. But what is possible is try to make the most of this day.THE PRESENT HOUR,MINUTE.
I know very well i cannot come back to this minute again and re-do anything- Hence i constantly keep thinking "what i can do to make this minute great? what i should do now so that i do not want to RE-DO it anytime?". This is very important.These questions show us so many possibilities- Although we cannot do everything so very perfect as we may lack the extra information that future brings, we still can try to give it our best.So that its worth our invaluable time.
Most of the time we look back at our past and grieve about things not done well or missed opportunities and look at the future with worries.Doing this we end up losing our most valuable possesion- our present.This day,this minute- i just want to make it beautiful.I just want it worth remembering later.I have no idea what future brings my way,nor do i want to think and regret about all my roads not taken.I have learnt through hard experience that i should live in today and thats what makes me feel happy and satisfied.I try to give my best today and just leave it at that. I have this quote by Ralph.W.Emerson hung up at my desk
Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be cumbered with your old nonsense.

How to add instant sparkle to life

As we go about doing our day to day ativities and struggling to make a living we all tend to forget to LIVE.Slowly our life gets tiring and boring.
Add some worries to this state of mind- u have a frustrating life.Which is what most of us live,but none like it.How to get back the lost colour in our life?
All of us know the trick, but never practice.Here are the time tested techniques to bring colour to our grey routines called life.
1) Have a hearty meal


2) Spend sometime with yourself.You and you alone.Doing what you love to do.




3) Connect to the nature. A flower or breeze can instantly prepup ur mood if given time.


4) Take your kid out on a weekend.


5) Get together with family and friends.




6)

Indulge in an adrenaline rushing sport.

7) Take a quiet stroll under the moon

Life is not about the final destination.It is all about living each day with a smile and satisfaction.Is it not?

Rules of Life