Wednesday, April 29, 2009

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Monday, April 27, 2009

Plan for life

There was a great business consultant.His main job was to convert sick companies into rich ones by devising strategies.A CEO of a very successful company read about him and to mock at him called him to his office.Challenged him,saying we are already number one lets see what advise can you give us.The consultant took the challenge.Sat there obsorbing the company's activies for a day.At the end of the day came to the CEO gave him a small piece of paper and left.In a month's time the CEO was all praise of the consultant as the company's profits just doubled.Eager to know what the consultant wrote on the small piece of paper??? "Plan for tommorrow's tasks at the end of each day".This is a much published true story.

We never proceed to build a house without a plan.Banks do not offer loans to entrepreneurs until they present a winning business plan.All manufacturing process,design process,software development process need plans before they are started.Why are plans important to all these processes?
There are many reasons.Few of them are
1) To limit failure
2) To stop drifting or losing focus
3) To get the desired results etc. It has been proven millions of times that processes that are planned and executed have better chances of success then the ones without plans.Now it is just rational to ask, how about the most important process called life? How many of us have any plans at all? Not many.He who fails to plan, plans to fail.Importance of planning our lives cannot be less emphasized.

All of us want to be successful in life.If it is true that success rates increase with a proper plan then why not we plan our lives? I am an excellent example for not planning anything.End result, It takes much time and effort to achieve the same things that others easily do with proper planning. I wasted a lot of time not deciding,postponing.Many are like me.We just drift along. The shortest and the fastest reachable route between two points is a straight line- Only if we know towards which point we are travelling.So when we travel we just take lots of long turns and arrive last.The early bird gets the worms.If we drift along we seldom reach anywhere first.Then we complain about bad luck and misfortune.But if we closely observe the lives of the achievers we can attribute their good furtune to their planning.They planned and prepared themselves for that opportunity and waited for it to happen.And when it eventually happened they made the most of it.It pays to plan ahead. It wasn't raining when Noah built the ark.

Ask anybody if they would love to go back in time.Everybody would love to. Many of us have something in our past that we could have done better.Such things happen to us because we keep drifting through life.We dont really think of what we want and how to plan for it.If only we had a plan with our dreams we could have done much better.we could have made better choices and our success would have been much better and less difficult.Most of us just go on from day to day doing whatever we had been doing the previous day.Seldom to stop to think what is our objective and how are we progressing towards it.We do not give importance to planning life as much as we give importance to so many other things.That is why whenever i look back in life i end up regretting for all the time wasted.For not aimming properly.For not planning my life.It is only this year that i decided i'll write down my plans.

Writting down our plans in the best way to show our commitment towards our dreams.I recommand we write down our plans and add time lines to them.All of us have big dreams.We all deserve to live our dreams.So why not we plan for the most important process called life.

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Sunday, April 26, 2009

How to make your life happy?

1.Have Targets and Goals.
2.Smile always.

3.Share the Happiness with Others.
4.Willing to Help Others.
5.Keep a Childlike Heart.
6.Get on Well with Different Kinds of People.
7.Keep Calm when Surprise comes.
8.Keep the sense of Humor.
9.Forgive Others.
10.Have some really good friends.
11.Always work in a team.
12.Enjoy the family gathering time.
13.BE confident and proud of yourself.
14.Respect the weak.
15.Indulge yourself sometimes.
16.Work from time to time.
17.Be brave and courageous.
18.Finally,don't be a money grubber.

Hope you Have a Very HAPPY and PEACEFUL Life.

This article is by my fellow blogger and good friend Vishal
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Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Basics of success

1) "The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather in a lack of will."

Strong mind: Everyone of us wants to be successful.But merely wishing brings misery and disappointments rather than success.To be successful we should crave for success with all our heart.Will power is the best asset of any human being.With its strength many have achieved miraculous success.Many have won over devastating sickness.Many battles were won with little or not enough man power.Will-power gives us the strength to walk even when the last ounce of energy had left over body.If we decide we will do it, we will do it.That is the power of our will.It is called inner strength.To be successful we need to draw all our inner strength and fight till we are successful.

2) "The person who gets the farthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare."

Action: This world recognizes actions rather than words.Actions prove our words.Actions show our commitment to our dreams.They are the steps to success. As the saying goes A journey of 1000 miles starts with a single step- everything ultimately boils down to our action.What we do and how we do it.Action involves analysis,planning and execution.When we take up any task we should have a plan.If we are not planning our action, then we are planning to fail.Sometimes our plans may falter.It is then to us to find the defect in our plan,correct it and re-try.The successful commander is somebody who is braver 5 more minutes than his fellow soldiers.Let our actions inspire others to support our journey towards success.

3) "Most successful men have not achieved their distinction by having some new talent or opportunity presented to them. They have developed the opportunity that was at hand."

Create chances:Everybody waits for their lucky break.And many expect that lucky break called chance will present to them in the form they dream of.In reality chances/opportunities/lucky breaks come and go quietly disguised in many forms.That is why even the ones waiting in alert for their chance also miss it.The best way is to be prepared always and when ready create our own opportunities.Search far and wide for it instead of waiting. Take it in any form it is available and forge it to our desires.That is the greatest secret of successful people.Create chances, do not wait for them.

4) "The difference between failure and success is doing a thing nearly right and doing a thing exactly right."

Attention to detail:This is were many of us fail.Classic example is our grade exams- scoring average can be done by the majority, while getting the highest score is real real tough.If you ask the highest scorer his secret will be his attention to detail.It applies to every field in our life.The difference between being average and being successful is the dedication that gives attention to every detail on how to achieve whatever task taken successfully.

5) "Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It's quite simple, really. Double your rate of failure."

Re-try:Many of us give up on the slightest signs of failure.It is human nature.We just cannot tolerate failures.We see failures with a mere negative eye.We miss the entire point that failures are god given opportunities to re-try.To do it all over again in a new fashion.If we could only overcome the fear of failure, we are on a right track to success.Watch babies and learn how to overcome failures.They just do not give up until they do it successfully.

6) "Success is not a destination, it's a journey."

Finally, we cannot be successful in life if we are just a "one time success".We need to work harder still to live up to our success.To be on top we need to constantly do better than all our competition.It is like riding a bicycle.If we stop peddling we will fall. To strive constantly comes only if we are passionate about our success.We need to respect our effort and the resulting success,only then we will want more.The good news is, with success comes tremendous confidence.Confidence gives success.Success usually breeds more success.It is a cycle as long as you could put in the required effort and energy.

Sunday, April 19, 2009

Relationships:Something to cherish for a lifetime!

"Good Life starts only when you stop wanting a better One"

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship.
Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB.
Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."
Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".


A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."
We all look forward to being loved and respected.

Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive others, others will ignore our mistake too.


A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.


Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..


There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered,"You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you."

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.


Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? "Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a nar row bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..


This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

This brilliant article is from Vishal,My fellow blogger and a good friend. You can find more of his inspiring words at, froz3n-desires and latent-aura

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Friday, April 17, 2009

make it possible

Nothing is impossible!
The stars are at your reach.
Nothing is impossible!
the sky is at your feet.

When u plan to do a thing,
hatch it with your inner strength.
When it grows its own wing,
it will show the world everything.

Focus focus everyday
see it shape up your way
nobody gets it right away
never let your thoughts sway

when they say it cannot be
tell them now its done by me
nothing is impossible here
all that stops is your fear.

hindrance will rise in your way
you will take it down anyway
focus focus everyday
see it shape up your way.

Nothing is impossible!
The stars are at your reach.
Nothing is impossible!
the sky is at your feet.

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Saturday, April 11, 2009

Throw away worries!

Believe it or not the prime emotion of this world is worry.Everybody is worried about something.And some worry about everything.It is such a pity.People lose a lot of time and energy worrying.Worrying about things that may go wrong is the funniest thing people do.People phantomize even minor obstacles and become their own enemies.This
funniest thing pushes many into such depressing thoughts that lead people to commit suicide etc.This is very annoying.It hurts me to see people sacrificing their own lives to the demons of worry created by their own minds.But those who have lived past their worries and faced the situation know that it was not as bad as they thought.Reality seldom is different from our imaginary difficulties.
Life is like that.We will live through many things.We live past broken relationships,we live after going through bankruptcy.Yes, we still live.Moral- We will somehow live through it.Mankind is blessed with many good emotions like will-power,determination etc.So we will survive,Provided we face our
worries and look through them.Stay there tight and let it pass.It will soon be over.Whenever worries creap into my mind i just ask myself- ok,what next will i
do if this worstcase scenario happens?.I just keep few options open.Like if this thing happens can i salvage anything from the situation? If not, how bad its
going to be and how i can handle that.Thats it.When i see my answers to above questions most of my worries look light.This is one way of throwing worries
Another way is by changing our perspective of any given situation.A change in perspective leaves us with many open doors to explore.Endless solutions
spring in if we could look at the object of our worry in different angles.
I do not say that we should not worry at all.I definetely hate the lazy,carefree person so called worry free stinking stereo types.Worry is good if it pushes us
into constructive action.But we should not get obsessed with worrying.That is the catch.Worrying makes us look at our problems with a magnifying glass.If
we stop doing it our problems would look manageable.That will give us confidence in finding a solution to the problem.Worries stand in the way of our
progress,Throw them away.Walking uphill with a ton of stones is much easier than facing problems with worries.

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Monday, April 6, 2009

Lost Time - short poem

Lost Time
Never did i realize
when i had
time,precious time,
lost once for all.
lots to do and lots to say
but i lost you everyday!

drifting through my life i saw
never i complete all i start.
If i planned my time to act
never i broke a single pact!

Wasting time is worst you see
time is the basic resource to me,
see ur dreams grow today
when the sun shines,make the hay!

when will you run out,
you never know.
time,precious time,
you may not have!!

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Thursday, April 2, 2009

Living my life 100 percent this year!

It was my b'day yesterday..
Like everybody else i cant write resolutions on my b'day.Nobody believes.Its all fool's day after all.Thats why choose to write today.
I want to publicly commit all my aspirations for this year,so that i'll try to follow.Atleast for the sake of answering the readers.I wanted to do lots of things,but lazed around always.Aimlessly running through life.Living with the dream that someday i'll do that.But i never did.This year iam planning to put a time stamp to all my dreams and wishes. I love to have them all come true.
1. I always wanted a cozy-comfy home.Having not decided where to settle,what to do- i keep living in rental places and dont concentrate much on how much they reflect me. If its my own place i'll definetely modify to my tastes and make it my recharge station. So this year, iam buying a house and making it my own.This i plan to do in 6 months time.So by September 2009 i should have my oasis ready. Keep me in check.
2. I dont know to swim. But i love the pool.I frequently go there, sit and dream that someday i'll swim.I even started a class but never continued. This time iam not giving up.I plan to join a class soon, I should be good at it by June end this year.Keep me in check.
3.I want to post weekly twice to my blog.Currently doing once a week.Starting today i plan to post twice weekly.Keep me in check.
4.My blog traffic should be a minimum of 100 hits per day by August 2009.Thats 6 months from now. I should work minimum 1 hour a day everyday exclusively to build my traffic.
5.I plan to improve my relationships by listening more and advising only on request. Check me by end August 2009.I should be writing on how happy iam with my family by end august 2009.
6.I want to get back to my job.That i should do with in the next 4 months.Thats end July 2009.[I wont b looking for a job for another 2 months as my baby is still small for day care].
7.Starting June 09,i should read 1 hour everyday to improve my technical skills for my job.
8.I love to paint.But i dont even know the basics.I need to learn painting. My plan is to learn within the June 2009.Just as swimming.
so that by end june 2009 iam up two skills i love.
Now that i have a plan and i have publicly commited, i think i'll go for it.Keep you posted on my progress.